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is loving a person a risk?

Of course. It is one of the biggest risks there is, but with risk there is reward. Risks often disguise promise. To have a life without risks isn’t really living to me. We take risks everyday. Even crossing the street we can be hit by a bus, the sky could fall, but we still go on walking.

Love is a risk, but thinks that are worth it often are. 

01:58 pm, question from Anonymous, answered by ellosteph 30

what do you eat to maintain your body weight?

I honestly don’t really watch what I eat. I try to cook my own food, which yes, is typically very healthy. However sometimes I eat very unhealthy foods, and a lot of it. I try not to obsess over what I eat. Typically eating healthy makes me feel a lot better physically, but I never keep myself from eating junk food sometimes. 

01:56 pm, question from Anonymous, answered by ellosteph 8

Is it possible to be a lesbian but not have the feeling of being in love with a woman? So that's purely attraction to women. Though none to men also.

Absolutely. There is a term called “aromantic,” which is an individual who experiences little to no romantic attraction to others. They can still be sexually attracted to specific genders. There are many gray areas in the asexual/aromantic umbrella. 

01:52 pm, question from Anonymous, answered by ellosteph 9

My dad passed away this morning and i don't know what to do, its like it hasn't hit my yet that he's not here anymore, im only 17 he'll never get to walk me down the aisle or see me graduate. On top of that i feel like a piece of shit cause my last words to him ever was "you're an ass" and then i didnt see him for 3 days and my mom called and told me to come home and then i found out. Do you have any advice with losing a parent? How you've learned to get rid of the empty sick feeling inside

Everyone handles grief and loss differently. There is no “right” or “wrong” way to feel. Sometimes it hits people right away, sometimes it takes months to sink in. I can only speak from my perspective when my mom passed away during my senior year in high school. For me it hit me in waves, for my dad and my sister it was within seconds. 

I too had all of those thoughts you did. You realize your parent won’t physically be with you at those milestones in your life like you have always imagined. I think it’s sometimes much harder on the loved ones when someone passes unexpectedly, because you didn’t have the time to even brace yourself for those thoughts and realizations. 

I too have had so many regrets. I can assure you that your father knew that those last words did not define your entire relationship. Parents are so much wiser than we give them credit for. They understand when we say things we don’t mean, they understand to look at the big picture, they remember when they were in our shoes and have said stupid, hurtful things. I can assure you that he passed knowing you loved him. I can assure you he knew you loved him even as you said those words you regret. 

My best advice is to let yourself heal at your own pace. Don’t try to find answers, don’t be upset with yourself if you are mourning in a way you didn’t want to. Be open, let it hit you, even the hard parts. I will tell you what I tell everyone who has ever come to me seeking advice about losing a parent. The honest truth is that it never gets better, but it does get easier. I like to think of it as having a rock in your pocket. When it’s first there you feel it all the time, but eventually it becomes common to you, and although that weight is still there you don’t always focus on it, you don’t always feel it, and sometimes you’ll forget it’s even there. It will stay, some days it will feel heavier than others, but you’ll always be strong enough to carry it. 

I’m sending you all my love. You will get through this. Life’s hardest battles are given to the strongest warriors. 

01:46 pm, question from Anonymous, answered by ellosteph 27

Do you have a favourite book of Julie Anne Peter's?

Keeping You a Secret was the first Julie Anne Peter’s book I read, so that one holds a special place in my heart. Right now I would probably have to say Rage: A Love Story, because it was a very real topic (I don’t want to spoil anything) that I don’t think most LGBTQ+ youth consider when diving into a relationship. I also very much enjoyed the way in which Luna was written, because I met most of my friends who identify as transgender in college. I never really had never thought about what it was like knowing you are transgender when you’re an adolescence. I also liked how the narration wasn’t from the protagonist’s perspective. 

01:35 pm, question from Anonymous, answered by ellosteph 23

Let me take you on a date?

I don’t date strangers love. 

01:24 pm, question from Anonymous, answered by ellosteph 13

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Don’t be a drag, just be a king
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