This #throwbackthursday really pulls my heart strings. Randi, I can’t believe this week is the two year anniversary of your passing. You were my first “college adult” relationship, a caring friend, and an inspiring individual. Thank you for the laughs, the adventures, and the unconditional love you gave me. I am so fortunate to have had you in my life. I think about you everyday, and I still water our bamboo plant. You will always hold a special place in my heart. #NGUNS #Randi #tbt

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Your lip bite though .. 😍 do you consider yourself a good kisser?


I’ve never made out with myself, so…

12:17 am, question from Anonymous, answered by ellosteph 110

How do you flirt to let a girl know you're interested in her?


My lovelies, I am probably the worst person to answer this question lol. Healthy relationships, sex education, suicide prevention, advocacy, self love, all that jazz I can answer, but flirting just no. 

Either I am the world’s smoothest flirt (and I literally have no idea how), or I am the most awkward one. There is no gray zone. I’m either very quick, cunning, and smooth, or I end up saying something along the lines of, “Ello I’m Steph and I find you very extremely attractive…dammit.” 

12:07 am, question from Anonymous, answered by ellosteph 82

What's your idea of a perfect date?


Sorry love I’ve got to keep the mystery ;) 

11:25 pm, question from Anonymous, answered by ellosteph 21

I need you help, I took a break with my partner who turns out to be trans. I still loving him/her. But I am so confused my head is a total mess. I feel as if I was mourning somebody who isn't dead.


Very rarely do I completely go into “angry Steph jerk mode.” This is one of those rare instances. 

You my dear do not need my help, you need to wake up. You are being completely disrespectful, towards your partner and are beyond selfish for making your partner’s coming out process all about you. Coming out as trans is way more difficult than coming out as gay. They have higher bullying rates, suicide rates, they have medical needs to accommodate them that aren’t covered by insurance, and that is only half of it. 

I honestly think they (referring to your partner as him/her is totally disrespectful btw) are way better off without you if you are going to be so ignorant. How dare you say you are mourning for someone who didn’t die, but is being born? They’ve been the gender (or lack of gender) they are coming out as their entire life. This is a huge process for them, a huge wall they had the courage to take down, and you have the audacity to make this all about you and how you feel. 

If you and your partner are on the rocks because their gender identity doesn’t match your sexual preference you still should give them your respect and support, because that is a human right. Respect your ex partner, respect their pronouns, and open your eyes to realizing that this is not all about you. 

10:15 pm, question from Anonymous, answered by ellosteph 238

Have you ever flirted with a girl and then realized she was straight? Are there any tips on how to avoid that?


Well some people (like myself) have very flirtatious personalities and will unintentionally flirt with anything that breathes.

The only 100% effective tip I have is not to flirt with anyone, ever (but that doesn’t sound too fun now does it?) It happens, it’s life, just go with it. Showing interest in someone is always a compliment in my book regardless of their gender or sexual orientation. Are the feelings always reciprocated? No, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t put yourself out there. 

10:06 pm, question from Anonymous, answered by ellosteph 72

Wait how would anyone not be interested in you? is that possible?


I’m a person just like everyone else, so yes it is very possible. 

10:03 pm, question from Anonymous, answered by ellosteph 20

You are my celebrity crush ! :)


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